The word “mastermind” feels like the name of a super villain.

I immediately envision an evil genius slowly petting a fluffy white cat while plotting to overthrow the government of Luxemburg.

But as I learned last year, a mastermind isn’t a super villain, it’s actually the secret way awesome people get awesome things done.

Last summer, a guy named Kyle Chowning asked me if I wanted to join a mastermind. He also asked Jeremy Cowart, Derek Webb and Carlos Whittaker.

The mission was simple:
Community wins.
Let’s win together.

We’re not meant to chase a dream alone. We’re not meant to build a business alone. We’re not meant to do life alone.

So every Thursday, from 8:00-9:30AM the five of us meet. (Sometimes it’s on the phone since a few of us travel for work.) The first thing we do is spend 2 minutes each talking about our wins from the previous week. We have such a #humblebrag culture that criticizes you for being excited that’s it nice to share something successful without getting ridiculed for it.

I swear, humblebrag is Internet for “I’m jealous of you and want you to feel ashamed.”

Then one person is on the hot seat each week. Whoever is must present a business problem or life challenge he is facing. The the rest of the session is then devoted to helping provide feedback.

And it works. It’s been one of the most valuable things I’ve done in the last year. But why does it work?

Because we have three things:

1. Commitment
If people aren’t committed to a community you don’t have a community. You might have a social club. You might have a hangout, but unless people are committed to showing up and participating when they do, they won’t get anything out of it.

2. Honesty
You might have to front the rest of the day, putting on airs, guarding your words closely or performing, but not in the Mastermind group. You have to be honest. That goes both ways. You have to be honest about a challenge you’re facing or a mistake you made. You also have to give honest feedback. If someone is walking toward a precipice you better tell them the truth.

3. Patience
Good communities take time. Friendships take time. Honesty takes time. We’re coming up on our one year anniversary but we’ve really barely begun. Patience will be the mark of whether we’re successful long term.

I am so happy Kyle invited me to this Mastermind and I strongly encourage you to get involved in one. The challenge of course is finding like-minded people. Kyle did the hard work of finding everyone for our group. How can you?

1. Be committed, honest and patient with the people you interact with in your life.
Live the qualities of a mastermind before you have one and find other people that do too.

2. Go where likeminded people go.
In your city or town there are places where other people looking for a mastermind are hanging out. For instance, if you live in Nashville, you should be part of the Entrepreneur Center. You are guaranteed to run into people like you with big dreams. (That’s why I do meetups in the cities I visit. My goal is to get 100 people to meet each other and realize they’re all in the same city doing awesome work. I’m only there for a day but those other people will still be there when I’m gone. They are your team.)

3. Let me show you how.
For the first time with a book, I’m doing special perks for bulk sales. There are four packages ranging from a few copies of Do Over to a 1,000 copies to have me come speak at your event instead of paying me a fee. (Bulk orders start at 30% off.) There’s also a “Mastermind Package.” When someone orders 25 copies or more they’ll do a Mastermind phone call with me and 4 other people. During this phone call I’ll teach you how to have a Mastermind and we’ll actually do one. (Click here to email Penguin for more info.)

(Note: Bulk sale pre-order packages no longer available now that the book has been released.)

I used to have this idea that chasing a dream meant you went off on your own. It was some sort of lonely vision quest that may or may not have involved scaling a cliff, fighting a swordsmen, defeating a giant and outsmarting a genius. (Pretty sure that’s just the plot of “The Princess Bride.”)

But I was dumb.

If you want a big dream, you need a big community.

Even if the name of it sounds a little like a super villain when you describe it.