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[caption id="attachment_3530" align="aligncenter" width="560"] Image via Joe Tokay.[/caption] Whether you’re 14 or 44, the company you keep, determines the heights that you will peak. We understood this as teens. Peer pressure was a thing, your mom didn’t want you to hang out with “that kid.” But your...

If I ate queso as often as I tweeted about it, I would be dead. They’d serve it at my funeral with a fountain in one final nod to the melted cheese dream that put me in the grave, but it would be game over for me. In order to eat queso, I have to work out. Is that the weirdest reason ever to exercise? Surely no one in the history of mankind has told a trainer, “My motivation for hitting the gym is cheese, glorious cheese.” Cheese   Traveling makes exercise difficult so I have to plan ahead. I have to pack my workout clothes. I have to pack my sneakers. I have to pre-select a time in my schedule when I can fit in some time on the hotel fitness center. Calling two old treadmills and seven barbells in a closet does not a “fitness center” make, but hotels are creative with their words. Three weeks ago I planned to run three miles in Houston, Texas. I got everything ready before hand and was laser focused on running three miles. A little voice inside my heads said, “Why don’t you run 4?” But like most times in my life I was quickly able to shut the positive voice up. (The negative voice in my head? I tend to hold open mic nights for that guy and listen and listen and listen.)

The reason we argue with the critics and ignore the people who like us is simple: We want everyone to like us. We want a 100% approval rating. I’m here to tell you, it’s not coming. Not because you’re dumb. Not because you’re lazy. Not because you just haven’t tried hard...

“I had to ask!” No, you didn’t. You wanted to ask and there’s a big difference between those two things. In Do Over, I spend 25% of the book talking about the importance of relationships. Why? Because relationships often get you the first gig. Someone will take...

Authors write books. Readers make them bestsellers. That’s one of the scary things about writing. You spend a year of your life saying no to other things. Things that might be guaranteed to work. Things that might have been easier. Things that might have made more sense to...

Do Over Club For the last 18 months I've been doing meetups around the country. The format is simple. At 7AM or 7PM, depending on the city, I hang out with 60 or so people who have been brave enough to hang out with some dude from the Internet. I then share 20-30 minutes of ideas I've been working on, which is fun, but it's not favorite part. My favorite part is what happens next.

The word “mastermind” feels like the name of a super villain. I immediately envision an evil genius slowly petting a fluffy white cat while plotting to overthrow the government of Luxemburg. But as I learned last year, a mastermind isn’t a super villain, it’s actually the secret way awesome people get awesome things done. Last summer, a guy named Kyle Chowning asked me if I wanted to join a mastermind. He also asked Jeremy Cowart, Derek Webb and Carlos Whittaker. The mission was simple: Community wins. Let’s win together. We’re not meant to chase a dream alone. We’re not meant to build a business alone. We’re not meant to do life alone. So every Thursday, from 8:00-9:30AM the five of us meet. (Sometimes it’s on the phone since a few of us travel for work.) The first thing we do is spend 2 minutes each talking about our wins from the previous week. We have such a #humblebrag culture that criticizes you for being excited that’s it nice to share something successful without getting ridiculed for it. I swear, humblebrag is Internet for “I’m jealous of you and want you to feel ashamed.” Then one person is on the hot seat each week. Whoever is must present a business problem or life challenge he is facing. The the rest of the session is then devoted to helping provide feedback. And it works. It’s been one of the most valuable things I’ve done in the last year. But why does it work?

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