Relationships

100 Words: The gift & danger of friends.

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Image via Joe Tokay.

Whether you’re 14 or 44, the company you keep, determines the heights that you will peak.

We understood this as teens. Peer pressure was a thing, your mom didn’t want you to hang out with “that kid.” But your mom doesn’t know who you hang out at work with and the stakes are higher because now you’re an adult and the years are shorter.

The friends you give your calendar to are vitamins or poisons. The best bring out the best in you, the worst tell you that your worst is best.

Also, be careful around people who own ferrets.

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6 Comments

  1. This is so true. I’ve found, often the hard way, over time that friends are the ultimate in “quality over quantity”. A very small circle of awesome people around you will make you a better person. The more people you “let in”, the greater the chance you will find yourself with those energy vampires.

  2. Minus the ferrets, my grandma implores this as the wisdom of her years. Your friends are your #1 most influential decision…by age 94, she’s made a lot of decisions and seen them play out. Thanks for the words this AM!

  3. I think the better Tweet here is this line: “The friends you give your calendar to are vitamins or poisons. ”

    Love this.

  4. Ben

    I’m writing a paper for graduate school and I just used the information in this post! (Cited it in APA Style, don’t worry, I didn’t plagiarize!)
    🙂
    Thanks Jon!

  5. “You’re the average of the 5 people with whom you spend the most time”

    Question: Does little Caesar count as one of my 5 friends?

    What a good way to put this thought into words, Jon. My friends have helped me to my highest highs and are responsible for some of my lowest lows. As an adult, I’ve intentionally broken off friendships that filled me with anxiety and anger. It wasn’t easy, breaking up with a friend is tough, but I know it was what I needed in my life.

  6. Nice, quick reminder of the impact of the people we choose to be around!
    Thanks for writing!